There’s no such thing as a “Mom”. Well, not entirely.
Any mother can testify to to the fact that you can’t be just a “mom” and leave it at that. Once you become a mother, you become so many other things too. We wear many hats, we do many jobs and if we work outside the home, that only adds to our invisible resume.
Allow me to expand on this line of thought.
Here are a few things I have become
in addition to being a “mom”:
When I got my very first apartment after college, I do believe I would have starved to death had it not been for fast food and boxed, one-pot meals like burger helpers and tuna helpers. It didn’t get a whole lot better after I got married.
When it’s just you and your spouse, you can find lots of creative ways to get around the whole idea of cooking including sandwiches, microwave meals, soup and so much more. But once you have a little person that depends solely on you, what do you do? Well, first I went to my own mother, who is the world’s most amazing cook (What? Isn’t yours?) and she fed us all for awhile. Slowly, I began to pick up on my own and began cooking in bits and pieces, some things that were quite tolerable actually.
By the time my second child was born, I had graduated to not only cooking meals from scratch, but I even made my daughter’s baby food from scratch as well.
Okay, I must admit here that I have no degree in medicine, but you probably knew that. However, having a child dictates that you must know what to do for diaper rash, colic, earaches, skinned elbows and knees, common colds, snotty noses, pinkeye, splinters, bug bites and eventually, bruised egos and broken hearts. Those last two, I still have found no cure for, but I’m working on it! As for the rest, I have learned over the years exactly which home remedies work and which ones don’t. For instance, chamomile tea bags come in handy for eye ailments, oatmeal broth is excellent for a stomach ache, and a mustard plaster really does work! Of course, when things get totally crazy, you visit your family doctor, but for those middle-of-the-night semi-emergencies, it’s nice to know a thing or two. Lord knows you will learn them!
Personally, I am a homeschooler, so this is very literal for me. I daily brush up on things I swore I would never use, and yet here I am, using them. Algebra stinks worst of all, but it’s part of the process, so we trudge through.
For every mother, though, we start teaching at an early age, the most basic things. Using a spoon, a cup, taking a few wobbly steps, then on to training wheels on bicycles and homework help. Eventually, with daughters, we teach how to take care of hair and how to act modest.
At our house, all children learn hunting safety and how to work on cars because, as my Daddy once told me, even girls need to know how to do those things. If we only had to teach from an educational standpoint, we could still wear this hat, but we are not only teachers, but life coaches as well. And that really matters!
Oh, I could probably sugar coat this one, but why bother? We truly do the work of a maid every time we do a dish, either by hand or by dishwasher, do a load of laundry, vacuum the floor or shine the sink. Think about it for a minute and I bet you can think of at least three different ways to get grass stains our of clothing 🙂 And if you’re anything like me, you usually presoak certain pots, pans and casserole dishes because you have made the mistake of letting the contents dry and stick on like quick-crete! These are things that in many situations, only cleaning professionals are suppose to know. But, for a mom, that’s all part of the job description!
An Event Planner.
I’ve never actually looked up the salary of someone who bears this title, but I bet it’s a lot. This is a primary function of yours, mom, especially if you have children in sports or some other extra curricular activity.
Planning the day is one thing, but planning a weekend or some of the more flamboyant summer flings is quite another. From birthday parties to sports tournaments, band camps to sleepovers, it’s always something else right around the corner. If you’re a mom that works outside the home, you have to plan around your schedule. You then have to plan your husband’s schedule and all the children who usually are all involved in separate activities. But you still pull it off, don’t you? Well, most of the time anyway.
There have been times when I myself have been taking one child to one function, dropping them off, running to Christmas shop or pick up items for Thanksgiving dinner and then back to pick the child up again and still make it home in time for a late dinner. Should there not be awards for this?
This is one of the hats we wear that we might not think about in terms of an actual “job”. But you can bet your sweet bippy it is! We might have to sell all the children on the same restaurant or a particular store for school supplies. We might have to sell our husbands the idea of a particular “friend” of one of the children. Boyfriends are the worst, admittedly, but girlfriends can be just as bad. We might even have to sell the whole crew on a particular dinner idea because we’re trying to be frugal. We sometimes have to be thrifty with the food we have the next grocery trip. Either way, we are sales people, extraordinaire!
This, of course, is not an extensive list, certainly. As moms, we each walk our very own road and we each do our own thing with our own family. Some of us are stay-at-home moms, while some of us work outside the home. There are those of us have sitters or nannies while some utilize daycare or after school care. Some of us play the part of a single parent while our husbands drive 18-wheelers or defend our country overseas. In that respect, some of us ARE single moms.
Whatever the case, we aren’t all the same, and yet we are. We know what it’s like to feel complete failure sometimes! But, thank God, we also know what it feels like to be a superhero in the eyes of our children. All those hats, we wear them proudly, even though we might not feel like they always fit. And we do the very best that we can with what we have.
If you are a mom that fits into any of these categories or one that I may have failed to mention, may I just say, YOU ROCK!
Keep on being awesome, because you are, and keep on learning and wearing new hats, because you can.
If you can think of any other mom-roles, please list them in the comments below! If I get enough, I would love to do a new post and add all the great ideas.
I look forward to hearing from all of you multi-tasking moms!