He Answered Her Not A Word

Everyone that knows me knows that I pray with all my heart that my daughter will come to know Jesus. It’s not to say that she doesn’t know of Him. No, she’s heard enough to know of Him. In fact, she had quoted Scripture to me countless times when she realized I forgot it myself. Times when I lost my cool, times when I lost my hope, or just times when I was being plain ugly.

She knows of Him.

I was praying one night last week, and I was quite honest with God… Lord, I know that Your ways are not our ways, but I have to be honest with You. I don’t understand why it seems like to me You’re not answering this prayer for her salvation! I’m not praying selfishly either. I am praying for her salvation, plain and simple, and it looks like that would be something You would honor, Lord. I’ve cried, I’ve fasted, I’ve stayed up entire nights in prayer. I’ve done everything, it seems, but to sit in sackcloth and ashes! I dare not accuse You, Lord, I’m just being honest that I can’t understand why.

That particular night, I told Jesus, if there was something I was missing, that I would gladly be still and silent in His presence if He would please, just speak to me. A vision, a dream, a feeling, a confirmation… ANYTHING, LORD!!

And so, I was silent. All. Night. Long.

Eventually, sometime after daybreak that next morning, I fell asleep. But I still couldn’t understand. Of course, that will not deter me, and I even told God that! I said, Lord, if I don’t see the answer today, then I will be right back with the same petition!

But then Sunday came, and virtual church began. And our Pastor was speaking about the woman who followed after Jesus, from Canaan. It was a wonderful sermon, of course, but one simple statement grabbed hold of me immediately.

She was crying after Him, Lord, have mercy on me! My daughter is vexed with a devil!

I have to think that I know how she felt. I mean, a mother is with her child more than anyone. She knows when something is not right. What’s more than that, can you imagine when she heard tell of a man who could heal her daughter! I believe it didn’t take long for her to decide to find Him and do whatever was necessary to obtain that healing for her own daughter. After all, she must have heard that not a soul who came to Him for healing ever left without the cure they’d come for!

Yes, I think I’d cry after Him too, if I were her!

But, when she got there… when she found Him… and when she told Him what she needed, it wasn’t at all like she’d heard it would be:

But he answered her not a word.

Matthew 15:23

For her, it must have been frustrating. Unlike me, she had Jesus right there in front of her! She was following Him, and it’s safe to say she was close enough to know that He heard her! But he answered her not a word.

But she didn’t plant her hands on her hips and ask Why aren’t You answering me? In fact, she apparently didn’t stop crying after Him at all, because the disciples wanted Jesus to send her away. And He could have. But instead, He said it wasn’t her kind that He had been sent to.

So, she came closer and worshiped Him and begged His help. As if He’d never said a thing.

His next words insinuated she was a dog! I have to say, of all the times I’ve felt like God didn’t answer my prayers, I’ve never thought that He was calling me names. Of course, He meant it to say that the children should eat first, proverbially speaking.

She didn’t even argue with Him. In fact, she agreed! Truth, Lord: yet the dogs eat the crumbs which fall from their masters’ table.

And that was enough to warrant Jesus seeing a faith in her that was great! And He did answer her prayer!

Maybe I’m in that stage where I’m crying out for my daughter and He’s not answering me a word. I may not understand it all. I’m sure that woman from Canaan didn’t either. But you know what I think? I think she was SURE that He COULD heal her daughter! And I think she wasn’t even going to consider the idea of leaving until she found favor in His eyes!

Even if it was only a crumb!!

I bet someone else out there is waiting like me. If so, let’s take a minute to drink in this Scripture story in Matthew 15. Let’s take notes. Let’s not try to deny a thing, but rather let Him know that WE know… that He IS able!

Even during these times when He isn’t speaking a word…


  1. I prayed for my daughter many years, she was 15, when I was saved. I poured everything I could into her, I prayed, I believed and I waited, believing Acts 2:38, one night many years later, she called and asked me how to get baptized, that week I watched a long awaited prayer be answered, and I witnessed my daughter’s baptism, it was incrediable. Believe as if it is so, speak it as if it is so, thank Jesus as if it’s already done🙏🏼🤗. What God does for one he does for another. Blessings

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      Oh Sis, this just brought me to tears!! Thank you for sharing that!! It brings me great joy, first of all, that your daughter was brought in and that prayer was answered, and second, that my thoughts were right… that God is faithful, who promised!! Praise God, thank you!!

  2. I have come to a point in my life about unanswered prayer. I think of it as a good thing.
    We never know why God doesn’t answer prayer. Could it be that just maybe the answer may be worse. He knows our past, present, and future.

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      You know, I agree with everything about this comment. Which is why I didn’t even attempt to figure out why my prayers haven’t been answered… or other’s prayers. His ways are not our ways, and I know the truth will present itself in time, if we faint not <3

      1. Stacey Lynn let me share an experience about prayer back when I was 18.
        I left home and had moved to start my playing as an organist with a preacher.
        I received a call about a lady in our home church who was dying of cancer. They asked me to go home.
        So, I did. I went up to the hospital met her husband and he asked me to pray that God give her a miracle.
        I walked in the room and went to her side. I went to pray for her and something inside of me told me that she would be gone in 24 hours.
        I told this to her husband. He became quite upset. Bothered by this I ask in prayer why. The answer that came for me was this, they wanted a miracle for her body, so I answered it by calling her home.

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          Wow. That’s amazing, and I really appreciate your sharing that! I can completely understand it, as well, because I had an 8 year old nephew that passed away. When I complained that God had not healed him, a friend asked me if I believed him (my nephew) to be in heaven STILL with cancer, STILL in a wheelchair, and STILL unable to hear. I have to admit, I believe all those things are gone in heaven <3 And then, as if to "seal the deal" so to speak, God told me He didn't put my nephew in my past.... He put him in my future <3 <3 < 3

  3. Stacey, this post really touched my soul, and I can see it did with others here, as well! This is one prayer request that is very precious to my own heart. This mother is not giving up until I see both my girls back in His Fold, being used of Him. I changed my way of praying years ago, when God gave me a promise for my oldest and has since become a unified promise for both my girls. Praying for our girls!

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      Praise God that it resonated with you, Sis <3 I know exactly what you mean, and we really have to stand our ground, don't we?? The devil wants us to buckle and feel like our prayers aren't going anywhere! But Jesus is so merciful and gracious to provide His Word that we can read through and find answers to our more intimate dreams, prayers, and desires. SHEW!! Just makes me want to get up and do a little dance! Glory to His Name!! <3 I'm praying for our girls, too!!

      1. I’m dancing with you all the way from the Deep South! God is answering, always working behind the scenes!

      2. Great post & great comments as I’m just seeing this.

        So many things can be said here, if you do not mind another one?

        I felt the Lord gave me this a few months back on this:

        Luke, 18:6 – And the Lord said, Hear what the unjust judge saith.
        Luke, 18:7 – And shall not God avenge his own elect, which cry day and night unto him, though he bear long with them?

        What does a ‘just’ Judge do? He WAITS until ALL of the evidence is collected before making His decision on a case.

        We are called to keep sending up evidence! Amen.

        Also, a true Father does not have peace in His heart untill ALL of His children are seated at THEIR place at His table!

        God Bless You!

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          Oh my goodness gracious, David… I literally had cold chills while reading this!! YES!! I had never even considered what a “just” judge would do!! That gives me so much joy, I just want to shout all over the place! Thank you so much for sharing, and yes, by all means, I certainly do not mind another thought, and another and another 🙂 Share all that the Lord puts on your heart, because I know that it will encourage others who come across this. Thank you! Blessing to you and yours, brother.

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      Praise God <3 I'm so glad it resonated with you, Tammy. Truly, He is a God that is so much closer... so much more attentive than we could possibly imagine. I'm so thankful. Our tears will be transformed into testimonies one day, I don't doubt it a bit!

      1. That’s heartbreaking but God is always with us every step of the way. May He carry you through this season as you wait patiently for Him alone🌺🤗❣️

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